Saturday, February 23, 2008

Building up each other (part1) 22/2/08

Words : Christina
Worship : Lin / Francis

Songs
41 In the name of Jesus
111 Welcome to the family
125 We are one in the bond of love
160 As we gather
295 We will worship the lamb of glory

(SHORT THANKSGIVING – ALL)

Rebuking the devil

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching,rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness." (2 Timothy 3:16)

Today we will explore the word “Rebuke” in the relationship between rebuker and rebukee with God in the midst.

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Activity 1

Explore the 3 Identities & Its Role
Rebuker
Rebukee
God

Materials:
Paste it on a bigger piece of paper for illustration. (Better View)
GOD
LOVE
Way of Life
Do Not Condemn
Rebuker
Rebukee
Patience
Careful Instruction
Gentle Way
Privately
Be Kind & Tender
Forgive
Love
Do Not Despise
Do Not Resent
Repent
Heed
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Rebuker & Rebukee need to acknowledge its role and respond with God at heart

Rebuker
Patience & Careful Instruction
2 Timothy 4:2 “Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.”
Gentle Way
Galatians 6:1 “My brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in any kind of wrongdoing, those of you who are spiritual should set him right; but you must do it in a gentle way. And keep an eye on yourselves, so that you will not be tempted, too”
Privately
Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins against you, go to him and show him his fault. But do it privately, just between yourselves. “
Be Kind & Tender
Ephesians 4:32"Be kind and tender to one another. Forgive each other, just as God forgave you because of what Christ has done."
Forgive
2Corinthians 2:7 “You should forgive him and encourage him, in order to keep him from becoming so sad as to give up completely. And so I beg you to let him know that you really do love him”
True love
Proverbs 27:5-6 “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”

What if the rebuke is rejected?
But if he does not listen to you,take one or two more with you, so that 'BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED-Matt. 18:16 also establishes another guideline - you should have two or three ready witnesses to confirm the truth of the matter; in other words, the issue at hand is not based on isolated example or hearsay (cf 1 Tim. 5:19-20).
If he still does not heed then simply allow matters to take its natural course. In other word, let consequences be the teacher.

The role of a rebukee is not to despise & resent
Proverbs 3:11-12"My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline
and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves,as a father the son he delights in."

Repent
Luke 17:3-4 “If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. If he sins against you seven times in one day, and each time he comes to you saying, 'I repent,' you must forgive him.”

Heed
Ecclesiastes 7:5 “It is better to heed a wise man's rebuke than to listen to the song of fools.”
Rebuke produces Repentance, Repentance produces Fruit.

God
Do Not Condemn
John 8:11 “Jesus said, "I do not condemn you either. Go, but do not sin again.”

Love
Revelation 3:19 says, “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent.”

Way of Life
Proverbs 6:23, “For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life.”

Rebuke ≠ Disapproval ≈ Edification (Painful)

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Activity 2
Role Play - Encouraging role by the rebuker and rebukee

Jonathan noticed a change in Francis’s behaviour for the past 2 weeks during care group and church service. Francis seems to be quite drawn back on lots of activities and did not quite look the same. So Jonathan called Francis for a meet;

Johnathan: Hi Francis, how's life?

Francis (looking tired): I am doing ok, been tired these days, maybe due to heavy workload, late nights with friends and watch tv programmes that shows at wee hours...

Johnathan (concern): Wow, quite happening in your life now ya..

Francis: Ya, that is why I seems to get agitated easily and apparently it did not do me any good (Sigh)

Johnathan: How's your walk with God?

Francis (Sigh): I seems to be getting further away from God and his word doesn't seems to ring any bell to me.

Johnathan: It’s good that you are aware of your feelings & situation. Have you consider to change abit of your late night habits?

Francis (sound reluctant): Ya, but……

Johnathan (positive tone): Why not take a rest from staying late nights out with friends and reducing you know.. late night shows.. this week? This will probably free up some time to complete more of your workloads and this in turn may allow you to have time with God.

Francis: Ya, you are right, I thought about it too.

Johnathan (encouraging): Since you have been thinking about it, why not act on it? You know, God is almighty, he is giving and caring, you might not feel his presence but we all know that he is omni presence, he is always in our midst. We should take care of our body as it is the temple of God, we have to ensure that we function well, so as we are able to have a healthy walk with God.

Francis (brighten up): Good to meet up to have someone to share about my situation. I guess I really need to work on it. I know God is not happy with me.

John: Glad to see you that you have realised it. If you need someone to talk to or to have a meet up, call me. Let's walk through this together.

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Role Play - Discouraging Role by the rebuker and rebukee

Diana: What’s up brother?

Charlene (looking tired): I am doing ok, been tired these days, maybe due to heavy workload, late nights with friends and watch tv programmes that shows at wee hours...

John: Wow very happening in your life huh...

Sam: Ya, that is why I seems to get agitated easily and apparently it did not seems to do me any good (Sigh)

John: How your daily walk?

Sam (Sigh): I am kinda far away from God and His word doesn't seems to mean much to me.

John (raise eyebrown): Reeeeee….lly….???? Far away from God?? how come???

Sam (sounds sian): Ya lor, its ok, I’m alrite, dun both.

John (sounds angry): That’s not the right attitude!! I’m very disappointed with you!! What are you doing to your life?? Don’t you know you should be leading a good example? Don’t you know you are wasting your life?

Sam (sounds bo chap): At times we are like that what...

John (agitated): Seriously you have an attitude problem..

Sam (easy going): well, if you say so, okie lah, I need to go..

John (giving warning): You better think hard about what I said OKAY!!

End of role play
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→ Discussion on the roles played
→ Review the chart on some key points

Closing - When should a Christian try to correct another Christian?

This can be a delicate subject. It is wise to spend time in prayer first, to check our motivation, and ask for guidance. There are times when Christians are called upon to "talk to or try to correct a fellow Christian." Our motive and intent should always be to bring about repentance and restoration to the erring brother or sister in Christ.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Why work together 25/1/08


Why Work Together?
Words : Christina
Worship : Lin / Frederick / Francis

Songs
128 SHOUT TO THE LORD
156 ALL WE LIKE SHEEP
160 AS WE GATHER
157 HE IS THE ALPHA & OMEGA
279 BIND US TOGETHER LORD

(SHORT THANKSGIVING – ALL)

Discuss on - Why is it essential to work together?
Get individual definition

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Activity

Rules of this game
- Boundaries – Can only stand outside, no part of the body to cross over the boundaries
- Ball – At any one time when the ball dropped out during the transfer, all team will have to start everything over again
- Purpose- All team members to transfer the balls simultaneously by pouring it to the central location

Terms:
- All teams (2-3 people) have levels of difficulties
- Timing and reaction at different pace
- Team members need to work together hand in hand
- Should any of the team failed to accomplish the task, all team will have to redo
- Encouragement and accusation flies
- Common purpose®Central Area®Common Objective

**** Individual member to take a ball after the game

Why working together is Important?
When someone we love and respect is dying and seeks to ask of us one last favor before the end, we listen intently, and we sense a deep obligation. We will usually try very hard to carry out our loved one’s dying wish, and if we cannot, or if we decide even for good reasons not to, it is often with a keen sense of sorrow. Jesus Prayer before he faced death – For Believers
John 17:20-21, "My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me.

The basis of our union with Christ is unity among one another. The most important thing about being in Christ is the most importance of you and me.

The objective of this lesson is to share;
Point 1 - What can the Ball represents when we work together? (Discussion)
- Salvation to unbelievers
- Ministries work be fruitful
- Spiritual growth faster pace

®Central Area®Common Objective® God need to be in the midst of US.

1 Corinthians 12:20-25: (One member to read)20As it is, there are many parts, but one body. 21The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!" 22On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other.

Glorifying one another, (leader)
Let us glorify each other. Let us make one another look good. We can do that by helping
one another to deal with sin, by helping one another with problems, by praising one
another, encouraging one another. Paul in Rom. 16 glorifes Phoebe, when he says, “she
has been a great help to many people, including me.” Do you glorify your brothers and
sisters in Christ? Or are you, like me, sometimes tempted to put them down, to disparage
their accomplishments, to injure their reputations ever so slightly, so you can make yourself
look a little better by comparison? Jesus would never belittle the Father to honor himself,
even though he deserved supreme honor. He humbled himself to do the Father’s will, to
bring glory to Him. We need to humble ourselves, to glorify one another.
I believe the Christian life is something that requires team work. We need to watch out for one another if we're going be all that we can be for the Lord. We need one another.

Question - How come at times working together will not produce result or the desire outcome?
John 21 - Jesus and the Miraculous Catch of Fish
1Afterward Jesus appeared again to his disciples, by the Sea of Tiberias.[a] It happened this way: 2Simon Peter, Thomas (called Didymus), Nathanael from Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two other disciples were together. 3"I'm going out to fish," Simon Peter told them, and they said, "We'll go with you." So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing.
4Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.
5He called out to them, "Friends, haven't you any fish?" "No," they answered.
6He said, "Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some." When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish.
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Closing

“We function best when we all work together in him”

Prayer
- Break into game group
- Prayer request of each other
- Given the below verses, respond to it

Are you aware of the "one another" verses in the Bible? Look with me at:
Romans 12:5 (NKJV) so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.
Romans 12:10 (NKJV) Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;
Romans 12:16 (NKJV) Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.
Romans 13:8 (NKJV) Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law.
Romans 14:13 (NKJV) Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother's way.
Romans 15:7 (NKJV) Therefore receive one another, just as Christ also received us, to the glory of God.
Romans 15:14 (NKJV) Now I myself am confident concerning you, my brethren, that you also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another.

Why pray together 18/1/08


Why Pray Together?
Words : Linda
Worship : Lin / Frederick / Francis

Songs
73 We are one in the spirit
17 We are together again,
160 As we gather,
205 A common love,
283 Let us exalt his name together

Does anyone know the meaning behind praying together? (Discussion Time)
Praying with others enhances its benefits by:
demonstrating God's presence
building the discipline to pray.
creating spiritual intimacy with others.
encouraging others
causing growth in each other
following the example set in Scripture by Jesus, His disciples, and the early church (Luke 9:28, Acts 1:14, Acts 2:42).
Verses;
Matthew 18:20
For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst (explain)

Hebrews 10:25
Not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.
(explain)

Proverbs 27:17
Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
(explain)

Luke 9:28
Some eight days after these sayings, He took along Peter and John and James, and went up on the mountain to pray.
(explain)

Acts 1:14
These all with one mind were continually devoting themselves to prayer, along with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with His brothers.
(explain)

Acts 2:42
They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles teaching and to fellowship to the breaking of bread and to prayer.
(explain)

“We are not praying for the sake of each other, but praying to the Lord,"
Reminds Milton Monell, director of the Global Prayer Movement,
a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ.

Just claim the promise of;

1 John 5:14,15, (Select members to read aloud their version)
“This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.”

Praying for yourself; (pray as an individual but in a group)

Request individual members to pray a short conversational prayer for their loved ones and friends with confidence that ‘He will hear and answer our prayers as He promised’.
(if there are 10members, we will hear all of it)

Learning how to pray for each other; (pray for each other in a group)
- Write down their names on small pieces of paper, fold it and place it in a bowl
- Allow each member to draw one folded paper from the bowl
- They will then pray for the person whom they have drawn

Then, explain further on why we pray together;

Because when we do we are strengthened and blessed together!
· Because when God is central to our lives, we can bring peace to ourselves and to others.
· Because God is LOVE and we need him to re-source our love when we get “used up”.
· Because Jesus promised that when two agree together and pray to His Father, He will listen and answer them. (Matt 18 v 19-20)
· Because praying in unity with our partner while hundreds of other couples are praying similarly; we can be one of the ways through which God will bring change to our society.


Closing

No matter our level of spiritual maturity, connecting with God is important.

Prayer is a unique and vibrant way to experience that connection in our daily lives.

That connection can also be deepened as we pray together.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Reflections

Something Anthony Yeo said on Sunday stucked in my mind..."that we can have the richness in Christ without the riches in life and we can have the goodness in Christ without the good things in life".

He reminded us also of the Singaporean mentality, that our version of Psalm 23 is .."surely good things and money will follow me..."

Remember we're meeting in church this friday. See you.

BK

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

2008

Dear All,
Just to recap what was discussed last friday on what we would like to do in 2008.

1) We want to take turns to lead the group - plan the schedule, program, discussions ,etc.Proposal is for 2 person to co-lead a quarter each.For Q1 2008, we are happy that Christina and Lin have volunteered.We are awaiting for others to sign for Q2, Q3 & Q4

2) For discussions, we want to embark on topical studies. Topics will be given to us before hand and we are to search the scriptures and research the subject before coming together to discuss. We would want the discussions to be applications centered. Example of a topic is anger.

3) We want to meet together 4 times a month. For every month that has a fifth friday, that friday will be off to allow us time to meet with our friends, families, etc.

4) We want to make the church prayer meeting an integral part of the cg activities.

5) We want to have one of the meetings to be a time for other activities; eg games - badminton, etc or visitation or street evangelism. This event can be held on day/evening other than friday. The activity time will be a good time for us to connect with others; eg Qiming, Delwin, Meijun, Joyce.....Summary on meeting frequency: 4 x a month. 2 regular meetings, 1 church prayer meeting, 1 activity.

6) As we meet, we want to come to share blessings so that we can glorify God and encourage others. We also want to come to minister to one another, through discussion and discovery biblical responses to life issues we are facing.

7) We will be participating fully in the Alpha course scheduled from March to May 2008, either by bringing friends or as group discussion leaders. We will attend the Alpha training to be held on 19 and 26 January.We realised that we do not lack head knowledge. We need to move the knowledge to our hearts, to effect life change and to an authentic Christianity. In wanting to do that, we recognise that only God can change us and only He can cause us to grow. We will want to guard ourselves against being activity centered to relationship centered, especially in our personal relationship with God.There is much to look forward to in 2008 as we seek to grow, as individuals and as a group, in our walk with God and to live to be useful for Him.For those who were absent last friday, please add your views. For those who were present, please comment on any points missed or are misrepresented.
Thank you.BK